Admit it, you clicked this because of the title, right? You saw this, and immediately thought, “Ok, where the hell is she going with this one?” Well, let me tell YOU! This is my favorite retort to anyone who gives me an attitude in the morning. I wouldn’t necessarily call myself a “morning person” and that’s mostly because I believe labels are stupid and they allow us to fall into this “role” we think we need to play, but that’s a whole other post. I really enjoy the mornings, I think they are awesome, especially when I’m not rushing around and can actually enjoy my cup of coffee instead of burning the sh*t out of my mouth trying to chug it before I leave.
So, let’s talk about attitude. Attitude is a choice. You can choose to have a positive attitude, or a negative attitude, and I’m here to tell you that what you choose will determine how you go through the rest of your day. It’s the truth. Imagine mornings as if they are a fork in the road, and you can either choose the positive path or the negative path, but once you choose that path, you’re on it for the rest of the day. It may sound a little morbid, especially for those “grumpypants” out there. Yes, I just used the word “grumpypants”. But, it is what it is.
Now you may be thinking: My morning started off horribly, I woke up late, tripped over my shoes on my way to the bathroom, fell asleep in the shower (which made me even MORE late), I burnt my eggs, it’s raining and I can’t find my rain jacket, UGH and now they’re playing “Thinking Outloud” by Ed Sheeran for the 40th time on the radio. This day SUCKS. Sound familiar? Ok, ok, ok, I get it. You can’t wake up every morning with sunshine and daisy’s growing out of your floorboards. You may be thinking this whole “fork in the road” analogy is great in theory, but nearly impossible in practice. Listen to me, it’s NOT.
You have a choice. You can either react or respond. Remember that, react or respond.
Ironically, as I’m writing this, I’m jamming out to J. Biebs, “What Do You Mean”…so allow me to explain what exactly I mean….
Reacting is what MOST people do, and I’ll be the first to encourage you to NOT be most people. When something happens to them, they react. If most people had a morning like that one I described above, you can bet there would be a lot of screaming, “ugh”ing, cursing, and they may even cut some people off on their way to work, just to feel better about themselves. Reacting is allowing your emotions to get ahead of you. Reacting will lead you down the path you DON’T want. Reacting takes a completely calm person and turns them into a screaming monster (trust me, I’ve been this person before).
Responding is the KEY to this whole positive/negative attitude thing I’m talking about. The first step in responding is acknowledgement. Yes, I’m telling you to acknowledge the negative. In the example I gave above, acknowledge that your morning hasn’t been ideal. Keyword here is “hasn’t”, this is past tense. When you acknowledge the negative, speak in past tense, do not use present tense. So, what I mean by this is: don’t say, “My morning isn’t going as planned”, this is not the kind of acknowledgement I’m encouraging. By speaking in past tense, it will open your subconscious to the possibility of CHANGE. By speaking in past tense, you are releasing the events of the morning. You have now opened your mind to a better day.
Other than acknowledgement of the negative, there is one last step in the responding process. Affirm the attitude you desire for the day. This is said in present tense. “I am radiating peace and love today.” “I am exuding my total badass-ery today.” “I am a f**king champion.” Everyone has different forms of positive attitudes they desire.
Now, if you are having trouble grasping this concept of responding, don’t worry, you are NOT alone. But I encourage you to try the simple 2 steps I described above. For first timers, you will feel a little silly saying your affirmations, but I promise you, your subconscious mind will hear you and work for you. Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s not, so even though you may not feel like a total badass or a f**king champion, your subconscious mind will still work with your conscious mind to make that affirmation become reality. Please trust me on this.
Remember, your attitude is your choice. How your day goes is your choice. Whether you react or respond is your choice.