“You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you feel about it.” -Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
That quote above is what I call a truth bomb. Now, of course, the term “truth bomb” isn’t what we would call a legitimate term, in other words, you can’t look this phrase up in the Oxford Dictionary. (Although, side note, you can look up the word “selfie”, crazy world we live in today, isn’t it?) But, despite the fact that you won’t find this phrase in a legitimate dictionary, I still want to give you an accurate definition of what exactly a “truth bomb” is, so without hesitation, I consulted Urban Dictionary, because despite some of the more ridiculous answers, I knew I’d be able to find at least one good definition of the phrase:
Truth Bomb (n): A fact, or a piece of knowledge, that when told to the listener, is devastating to the listener’s argument or world view.
I personally believe this is a phenomenal definition, and if you beg to differ, please comment below on what you believe is a better definition, seriously, do it, I won’t be offended. But anyways, let’s go on with the show here….
As I mentioned above, this quote is a total truth BOMB, and I want to encourage you all to take some time to let this quote digest because it’s often hard for us humans to accept responsibility for our feelings.
For instance, let’s look at the events that took place this morning: I woke up, absolutely exhausted, and contemplating whether or not to skip my 8:15 AM yoga session. I pressed the snooze alarm up until the absolute last minute, and then I thought to myself, Shelby, stop being such a little “b” and get UP! You love yoga, you preach yoga, just get your *** to yoga! So, I got up and began to rush through my morning routine. As I stepped into my bathroom to brush my teeth and wash my face, I felt a little sting on my foot, I immediately jumped, screamed, and looked down to see my feet and the rug COVERED in red ants. WHAT!?!?!! OUCH, NO! MOOOOOOMMMMMM! (Side note, this is the kind of thing that happens when you leave a full trash bag by your front door in the Carribean…) So, in an effort to still make it to yoga in time, but also deal with this red ant problem, I grabbed a bottle of bleach and began killing this LONG line of ants that was storming into my room. I won the war in a matter of seconds, and after checking my clock, I noticed I had about 10 minutes to get to Yoga; it’s a 10 minute drive away. I threw on my yoga attire, and began looking for my dad, because he’s the one that does the driving down here in the Dominican (trust me, if you are not a tad bit crazy, the driving conditions are really not suitable for you). I noticed he wasn’t around, and turns out, he was at the grocery store. Welp, looks like yoga is not happening today.
And, it didn’t. Alright, Shelby, roll with the punches. I let this event pass by and went on with my morning routine. Things were going well, and I even had a kickass Skype session with a friend who is doing kickass things with personal development and livin’ the kickass entrepreneurial lifestyle. So despite the craziness of the morning, I felt like the day was picking up; it was time to explore the coffee shops downtown and write today’s entry.
I ended up at one of my favorite breakfast spots in Cabarete called Friends. They have great coffee and reliable Wi-Fi, so I knew I could really get my juices flowin’ and write you all a great post. I grabbed a nice spot with a view of the street, perfect for people watching. I ordered my coffee, black of course, and I opened up my iPad. I was ready to deliver the GOODS.
Guess what? The Wi-Fi didn’t work. It didn’t work for me, and ONLY me. Seriously, everyone else around me could connect but for some reason, my iPad was giving me an attitude. And I couldn’t even leave to head over to the next place, I had already ordered my coffee; I was stuck there. If you know me, I’m a “get it done” kind of girl, so when my schedule was thrown off, so was I.
Ugh, today is just NOT going my way. This sucks. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. I don’t get it! Why isn’t this damn wifi working. Ugh! This is stupid, this coffee isn’t even that good, ugh I shouldn’t have bothered coming here, I should have just stayed at home to write.
All of a sudden, I seemed to have forgotten about my awesome Skype session earlier. I seemed to have forgotten that I’m in the Dominican Republic. I seemed to have forgotten that I woke up this morning with my health and my mind still intact. And most of all, I seemed to have forgotten that I CONTROL MY ATTITUDE, and thus MY OUTCOME.
“You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you feel about it.” What did I say before? TRUTH FREAKIN’ BOMB. Calm down, Shelby. Take a deep breath and remember your Core Desired Feelings: Freedom, Gratitude, Inspire, Love, Courage. Are you exuding those right now? The answer, is an obvious “No”. Once I “checked up from the neck up” (a.k.a. did a little assessment of my current thoughts and released those that were not serving me), I literally felt a smile spread across my face, a little weight was lifted off my shoulders, and I knew that everything is really not as bad as it seems; it usually never is.
And then, all of a sudden, an ADORABLE little toddler walked in to the restaurant (with his parents in tow) carrying a little blue guitar, and he was strumming it like he was the next Jack Johnson. He was the kind of cute that you just stop what you’re doing and stare. And without even thinking about it, I said out loud, “AWWWWWW”. And I laughed. The Universe was sending me a sign, lighten up.
I listened. I’ve learned the Universe never fails us. And if you’re new to my style of writing, learning, and leading, then you may not feel comfortable when I use “the Universe” like it’s some magical invisible force that gives us everything that we desire in life, well, I’m going to challenge you and say that it’s because you haven’t learned to listen yet. The Universe will reward you 10x when you open your heart, soul, and mind to what it’s capable of doing.
So, at the end of this whole ordeal, I learned to remind myself of my Core Desired Feelings, and to choose THOSE feelings over the anxiety of things not going exactly the way I planned.
I encourage you to commit the quote at the beginning of this post to memory, and every time you’re having one of those “WHY ME” moments, just remember, YOU control how you FEEL. YOU control the outcome.
P.S. If you are looking for more daily truth bombs, follow me on Facebook, Shelby Wildgust, because I post them on the reg!