Find Your Tribe; Enhance Your Vibe

It’s the afternoon; you’re starting to notice your lack of focus and energy as you move throughout the day. What do you do? Go for the Joe. Traditionally, coffee is a morning drink, however, many people resort to coffee as their PG-Rated “Afternoon Delight”, am I right? I’m not feeling particularly tired at the moment, and I still feel energized from my recent win in 500 Rummy against my Mom, but I know you might be feeling the opposite. So I encourage you to get up from your chair, do a little happy dance, and head on over to your nearest coffee shop, faculty room, Keurig, or whatever other magical device you use to dispense your coffee, and gain a little more “pep in your step”. And as you regain your focus, let’s chat for a while:

Tribes; What are they?

When I first heard the term “tribes”, my immediate visual was Native American’s in headdresses, chanting a sacred mantra, most likely around a bonfire in the middle of Nevada. Excuse my lack of Political Correctness, but I think it’s a fair assumption that you probably had the same visual.

All this changed when I cracked open the book, “Tribes: We Need You To Lead Us” by Seth Godin. His definition of tribe is “any group of people, large or small, who are connected to one another, a leader, and an idea.” Ahh, makes more sense now! The book is only 147 pages, and it’s a quick read; so in a matter of 2 days, I finished the entire thing, and now I feel compelled to write about it for all of you.

A core human desire is belonging. We like to feel like we are part of something; whether it’s a sports team, a sorority/fraternity, a club, a team at work, or maybe, you’re just a regular at a coffee shop and everyone knows you by name. Still, there is a sense of belonging. And this is important! It creates unity among members, and friendships are typically born from tribes.

However, I want you to assess the tribe(s) that you are part of. But before you do that, I want you to assess yourself. What is it that makes you excited? What is it that fuels your passion? What makes you laugh? What are your desires in life? Woah, those are some pretty deep questions, Shelby. I don’t know if I can answer that. Well, listen, if you can’t answer all of them, that’s fine, but at least try to answer one or two of them.

Okay, do you have your answers? Now, look at the tribes you are currently part of. Do they align with your answers to the questions above? Maybe your answer is yes, and if so, you are a lucky one, because most people go throughout life missing out on finding the tribe that best suites them. So if your answer is anything but a strong “YES!”, don’t freak, you are not alone.

But here’s the deal; if you’ve read this far, it means you’re still interested in what I have to say, and I’ll give you a fair warning here, you probably aren’t going to like it, but the bottom line is, CHANGE YOUR FREAKIN’ TRIBE! This is YOUR life, and if your current tribe is not fulfilling your desires, your passions, your excitement, then you need to grow a pair and make a change.

Listen, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So if your current tribe are the people you work with, and you are constantly complaining about how negative they are, how you aren’t respected, how nobody gets you, or my personal favorite, how you are overworked and underpaid, then maybe it’s time you make a change. This change is scary, trust me, I know. But if you want to raise your vibe*, then you’ve got to change your tribeit’s as simple as that. *By vibe, I mean the quality of your life.*

But it’s not as simple as that, is it? For many of you, coming to this realization is terrifying, right? You’ve been with the same tribe for years, any change to you is simply the quarters and dimes you receive from the barista down the road. I’ve been there. I understand. And I can tell you first hand that making this leap from the tribe that is keeping you miserable, complacent, or just downright, dull, is going to be met with resistance.

Nobody in your current tribe wants to see you charge ahead. Nobody in your current tribe wants to see you do what they wish they would have done years ago. I’m not saying your current tribe will hate you for leaving, but they might. So, I’m giving you a fair warning here, you might not get invited to that Holiday Party anymore. Jeez Shelby, you’re really making this whole “switching tribes” thing sound horrible.

It’s not. It’s liberating. It’s courageous. It’s the key to your success that you’ve been searching for. You can’t raise your vibe by attending self-help seminars and reading all the personal development books you can find if you are not willing to assess your current surroundings and notice your current tribeAnd if that tribe is not making you happy, is not helping you to fulfill your passions and desires, and especially, if it’s keep you stagnant, then maaaaaaaaybe, you ought to reconsider where you are spending your time. Keyword here, YOUR time.

Have I convinced you to leave your tribe yet? Maybe you’re on the fence, but you don’t know where to find your new tribe, okay, okay, I can help you with that. First and foremost, join the app called MeetUp, I have no doubt that you will be able to find a great tribe here, but maybe you’re yearning for something bigger and better, that’s how I was. My biggest suggestion is to start looking into Network Marketing Companies, that’s what I did, and that’s what worked for me, it may or may not work for you, but give it a try anyway, at this point you really have nothing to lose.

I am a huge advocate for this industry for many reasons, but the first and foremost, is that GOOD, RESPECTABLE companies attract GOOD, RESPECTABLE people. Network Marketers are some of the most passionate and driven people I have ever met, and I am proud to be one, and I am proud to be part of the tribe I am in.

If you’ve gotten all the way down here, congratulations, I know I was a little harsh above, but it’s reality, and I want your reality to be freakin’ amazeballs. So….I have to end on this last little note here:

If you did a self-assessment, and you noticed that your tribe is no longer serving you, it is now up to YOU to make that change. YOU control the outcome of your life. YOU control the energy within your life. YOU control who’s influence you allow. If you stay miserable, that is YOUR fault, not your job’s, not your spouse’s, not your friend’s, YOURS. If you choose to find a new tribe, and raise your life to a whole new vibe, then I solute you, welcome to the best years of your life!





The Importance of Your Daily Essentials

Mmmm, Dominican coffee is the freakin’ best. It’s rich flavor is what it’s known for, the way the taste lingers in your mouth, even after you’ve taken your last sip; I’m a total sucker for it. And as you know, I like to have my cup of coffee every morning, and today is no different. It’s part of my Daily Essentials. It’s not the same coffee every morning, it honestly depends where I am at the moment, and in this particular moment, I happen to be sitting on my parent’s deck here in Cabarete, Dominican Republic, overlooking the beautiful Atlantic Ocean as it crashes along the beach.

Laid out in front of me is all that you see in the picture above, and by laying out each item, piece by piece, I realized, I have quite a collection of daily essentials. I have my cup of coffee (of course), my Passion Planner, my Macbook Air, my journal, my phone (which is taking the picture), and my current read: The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorteNow, you may be wondering why I keep bolding the words daily essentials, and it’s because that’s the topic of today’s Daily Cup of Inspiration!

First and foremost, what are daily essentials? In my mind, these are the items that you carry around with you on a daily basis, the items that, no matter where you are going, you have in your possession.

We all have different daily essentials, and usually what you do for a living determines your daily essentials; for example, my cousin Katie, who is a world-class photographer, would never think to leave the house without some kind of camera, and my roommates, who are amazing artists, always have some kind of sketch book on them. So it differs.

I’m not here to tell you that you need to carry around all the same things as me, but what I am here to tell you is to find what is or should be part of your daily essentials. This will help with your organization, and trust me, when you start to become more organized, you start to find more minutes in an hour and more hours in a day. If you are a person who has a million thoughts per minute and happens to write them down on whatever piece of paper you can find, I suggest finding a nice notebook or journal that you can begin carrying around with you, thus keeping all your thoughts in one place.

Maybe you are one of those people that has 3 different scheduling methods: your iCalendar, your Google calendar, and the paper calendar that hangs on your fridge. I suggest consolidating all of that in to one main planner. My recommendation? The Passion Planner! There is ample space for planning, both in a calendar form, but also in a notebook and to-do list form.

I could go on and on with examples, but the bottom line is, it’s important for you to figure out the items that you require on a daily basis to be your most efficient and productive self. Instead of waking up every morning wondering what it is you need to pack for work, school, and/or life, have faith in your daily essentials that no matter what, these items will get you through the day, even if you happen to leave your lunch at home.

And remember, less is more; you’ve heard that saying before right? I’m learning to do this now, but this brings me back to what I mentioned earlier about all the different journals. Try your best to consolidate your daily essentials into about 3-5 things, all of which can fit into your bag. This will help you immensely, because instead of spending hours searching around for where you put the address to your upcoming cocktail party, or the name and number of a potential client, you know exactly where it would be, because you’ve created a system for yourself as to which essential is for what.

With all that being said, I hope I’ve inspired you to create a system of efficiency for your life! Let me know what are some of YOUR daily essentials and how you use them best!