What’s All This Talk About Courage?

Alright, it’s about time I make a post about courage, I mean, the name of this blog is Coffee Shops and Courage Talks, right? And I’ve mentioned coffee quite a few times throughout the last blog posts, so let’s get in to the other half: the deeper and more soulful half.

I’d like to start this one out with a definition, and this definition will guide our discussion today:

Courage (n): The ability to do something that frightens one.

I don’t really think that definition is a surprise to anyone, remember the lion from the Wizard of Oz? He was a real “scaredy cat” before he received the gift of courage from the Wizard, and then all of a sudden, he was able to take on anything, you could really hear him ROOOOOARRRRRR! What a pleasant way to end the movie, with all the characters getting exactly what they were searching for from the great Wizard himself….

Wait a second, didn’t he find out that he really had courage all along? Wasn’t that the whole twist at the end? Yes. YES! So, his courage wasn’t actually a gift, it was simply realized, and it took him quite the journey to finally understand that he what he was searching for, he actually already had.

This is LIFE. Welcome. 

As humans, we have an incredible power to overcome adversity. This is not my opinion, this is a fact. And part of overcoming this adversity is having the courage to do so. So, in lamest terms, the key to prospering is having courage. Now, I’m not naive enough to say that just by “having courage” you are going to see all of your wildest dreams come true, that is simply not the case.

But here is what IS the case: understanding that by exercising your courage, you will grow stronger in the face of adversity, and this is really where you will begin to see your dreams become reality.

We all have fears, some are rational and some are totally irrational (like my fear of walk-in freezers), and these fears are what stand in the way of our success. And the biggest fear among our population is the fear of failure. Let’s talk about this for a second…

Along with the fear of failure comes a host of SO many other fears: being ridiculed, being judged, being proved wrong, etc. And most people will put aside their hopes and dreams because they are afraid of failing in the process. Guys, COME ON.

Remember what I said about the lion? He had courage within him all along, but in order to realize this, he had to go on a crazy journey to see the Wizard? Okay, I’m not saying you need to find a Wizard, but you do have to go on a journey. And along this journey, YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL, but, that’s the beauty of the journey, that it keeps on going, even after the first failure.

So where is this magical journey? Newsflash, it’s LIFE. 

Your life is going to happen regardless of whether you embrace your inner courage or not. The minutes will keep passing, so will the days, and so will the years. And along this journey, you can choose to make the most of your minutes, days, and years, or you can let it pass you by.

You might be wondering, how do I make the most of my life? And I’m sure you can guess my answer, you embrace your courage. We all have it within us. Let me say that again, we ALL have it within us. And what separates those who we all desire to be (like Beyoncé, for example), and those who let life pass them by is the amount of courage these people exert on a daily basis.

All this is great, right? No, it’s not, because let’s be real here, it’s a hell of a lot easier to talk about finding your courage than it is actually living a courageous life. You may be thinking, where do I start? First off, you start today, and you start by doing ONE THING that scares you. You’ve heard that quote before, right?

So let’s break it down:

Think about your ideal lifestyle and what it will take to get there. Don’t think about the immensity of it all, just think about the vehicle you are going to use to get there; for me, it’s my Network Marketing business, for my friend, Dustin, it’s his weekly podcasts, and for my friend Chris, it’s his baseball career. All of these things are vastly different, but they will all lead us to a life of our dreams. What is it for you? It can be ANYTHING.

Now, I want you to think of the skills that are necessary for becoming the master of your vehicle. The most important skills and the least important skills, everything and anything. Ok, got it?

Today, I want you to do one thing that scares you, and that is in relation to the skills you just thought of. For example, a huge part of Network Marketing is building relationships, and a huge part of building relationships is meeting new people, and a huge part of meeting new people is chatting with strangers, and a huge part of chatting with the strangers is learning to say hi to people. Do you see how I whittled a big, scary skill down into a very simple daily action? You can do the same thing. And today, it is my goal to say hi to at least 3 strangers. Does that sound hard? No. Does it sound a little scary? Yes. Do I have the courage to complete this simple task? Yes.

And you do, too. 

Xoxo,

Shelby

P.S. if you want to chat more about this on a 1-on-1 basis, please reach out to me via Facebook, I would love to brainstorm ways to elevate and realize your inner courage!